JOUNRAL 1
I am setting two goals now. First of all, I hope that I will lose weight in the nearest three months. Secondly, I want to find a part-time job.
For my first goal, I did not achieve it in the past because of lazy. Firstly, I cannot withstand tempting food, such as, biscuits and chocolate. Secondly, I got up at 12:00 am, when I did not have the class. Therefore, I had a ruleless meal everyday. Thirdly, when I was hungry, I did not want to cook. So I ate a lot of unhealthy food which is easy to induce fat, such as, KFC and pizza. After eating, I prefer staying in bed and playing computer to doing the sports. As a result, I gather flesh.
At present, I am 55 kilograms. My aim is losing my weight up to 50 kilograms. I design a plan to solve the problem of fat. At the beginning, I will get up earlier than before. (7:30am) Then, I will do some sports becomingly every week, such as, yoga (twice a week), swimming (when I have a time) and running (four times a week). As well as, I will have a jog with my housemate after dinner. (About 2 hours three times a week) I live in Box Hill South which is near Box Hill market. We can jog there about 50 minutes and buy some vegetable and meat .Then walk back home. In addition, I should have a healthy diet. I should eat more vegetable, fruit, meat and rice, instead of biscuits, chocolate, KFC and pizza. I also should have a regular meal. At 8:00 am for breakfast, I should eat some bread and eggs and drink milk, because beginning of one day, breakfast is more important. At 12:30 am for lunch, I should eat some rice, vegetable, meat and fruit. At 19:00 pm, I just eat a little fruit and vegetable, because digest is slowly in the night and eating too much in the dinner is bad for heart.
Timetable for losing weight below:
Finding a part-time job is my second goal.
Last semester, I got to Australia at the first time. I was not seasoned with independence. Everything should be done by me here, instead of doing by my parents at home. So I felt so tired everyday. Although I only had two days to have a class, I preferred staying at home at any other day. After that, I lost many chance to work and made friends.
This semester, I want to have a job which makes my life richer. The first step, I should choose which job is fit for me. My specialty is accounting. So I want to find a job about accounting, which is too difficult. Last Friday, when I bought vegetable at market, I pointed out the mistake of toll collector. Therefore, she gave me a chance to charge in her market, because I can remember the price of different vegetable. I will try to do it. If I cannot get that job, I will go to Box Hill Center where a lot of Chinese restaurants are. I will walk along the street and find out the restaurants which need waitress. The other way is finding a job online. I will look through the website and find the satisfactory job. Then, I will give them an email for indicating my interest. When I get a job, the next step is arranging my timetable. I have a class in the afternoon of Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Therefore, I can work at Tuesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. However, I need some time to have a rest and travel. As a result, I decide to work at Friday and Saturday.(four or five hours a day)
Timetable for finding a job below:
Monday: study
Tuesday: have a rest or travel
Wednesday: study
Thursday: study
Friday: work
Saturday: work
Sunday: have a rest or travel
JOURNAL 2
I will give effective criticism to solve the problem in the journal. I was living with five girls in a house and the space is limit and narrow. So we always suffered from different kinds of conflict. I this situation, I found out an effective criticism to solve the conflict and lived sequentially. I will show an example to explain how to give effective criticism.
All of us came to the narrow kitchen to cook dinner at 6:00pm and the dishware was limited. I saw that a girl used a basin to wash the vegetable. Therefore, I only found a boiler to wash my vegetable and dipped it in. A few minutes later, she looked at me with a disagreeable expression and said “all of us should choose the boiler instate of the basin to wash the vegetable. Following that, we can cook more expediently and do not need to change the dishware. When we finish washing, we can cook sequentially.” I heard her words and felt very angry. I never thought that washing vegetable in the boiler is convenient. I nearly disputed with her right now but not, because I remembered the theory I learnt in Human relations—the six steps for giving effective criticism. I intended to practice it here and check whether it works effectively.
On the first step, I gave her some praise. “I know that you are so laborious. You keep our kitchen very clean and we have a comfortable environment to cook. Thanks very much.”
Following that, I criticize immediately, perform the criticism and give specific, accurate criticism. “I think it is too late now and we are hungry. All of us want to have a dinner as soon as possible and no exception with you. But the kitchen is too narrow and the dishware is limited. I never thought that washing vegetable in the boiler is convenient. I only used boiler to wash, because you wash vegetable in the basin and I have not any other dishware to wash. When I heard your words, I felt so heart-struck. We are the friends and should help and understand each other. Previously, I always waited for your finishing cooking and then cook my dinner. However, I found that you always started cooking at nearly 6:00pm and finished it at nearly 10:00pm. My friend and I start to cook at 10:00pm everyday. I felt too hungry everyday and it is bad for our health. So I cook with you today.”
Then I open on a positive note. “I understand this action cannot solve the problem and even enhance the conflict. So I suggest that we can design a timetable. Everyone should cook follow the timetable and finish cooking as soon as possible. The first person should start at 5:00pm.” Then, I showed her my suggestion timetable below: (A: my and my friend, B: the other four girls)
Finally, I pointed out the action required. “We must keep a clean environment to the next people who want to cook. Therefore, we should wash the dirty dishware when we finish cooking and then we can have a dinner.” After I gave expression to her, she felt so shamefaced and said “I am sorry about my words and inconvenient for you before. I never thought about your feeling. I think the cooking timetable is scientific, appropriate and convenient. We will cook follow the timetable.”
In my opinion, this conflict is solved. It proves that I am successful in giving effective criticism. I give praise firstly instead of dispute with the girl or criticize her. If I really wrangle with her right now, it is bad for our relationship. And then criticizing him immediately and pointing her mistakes. I think the most difficult step is giving specific and accurate criticism. I will do more exercise on this step. I will give more appropriate criticism next time. I should change my tone more softly and tell her my difficulty.
JOURNAL 3
Finishing reading the conversation between Barbara and Peter, I find a lot of barriers to interpersonal communication. I choose three of them to identify and explain.
The first barrier is static evaluation. When Barbara said, “I just want to know what is going to happen with us. We are going to graduate in June-five months from now. What is going to happen then?” Peter replied, “Nothing. I mean the same as now.” When Barbara wanted to discuss the plans for after graduation with Peter, Peter terminated the continued conversation about plan and gainsaid the development of the plan. Thus, static evaluation causes the ending of the conversation and pot-bound communication.
The second is bypassing. The conversation is that Peter said: “so we are together. What more do you want.” And then, Barbara said: “I want to know you care for me.” And Peter said: “I care.” When Barbara showed that she wanted to be together, Peter just use the word “together”, which means we are together now, to replace the meaning of Barbara’s “together”, which means she want to go on together in the future. As a result, Peter evaded answer Barbara’s question and transfer the topic to care.
The third is fact-inference confusion. When Peter said, “I do not want to marry my mother.” Barbara answered, “Oh, so that is it. You do not want to marry me.” Peter just wanted to explain that he had a mother to disturb his life and did not expect his wife also disturb his life as his mother. However, Barbara misinterpreted that Peter did not want to marry her. She misconstrued the fact of the Peter’s meaning. Therefore, fact-inference confusion leads to miscommunication.
In my own life, a thing made me annoyed was argued with my teacher when I studied in secondary school.
I was always late to school in the morning in the past. My teacher decided a plan for avoid be late, which is cleaning the classroom. On the next day morning, I reached school very early, because I do not want to be punished. But my monitor forgot to write down the name of latecomer. When my teacher declared the name of latecomer, I amazedly detected that my name was on the name list. I was so angry. After school, I came to teacher’s office and said, “Why do you think I am late today? The monitor forgot to write down the name of latecomer, which is his mistake. You cannot use his mistake to punish me.” I used a lot of You statement and others listened to my explain likes the blame. My teacher heard my word and said, “I understand your feeling and I do not know what is happen?” I find that my teacher would like to listen to my opinion and then show him honestly, “I accept that I was always late in the past. But today I came to school very early, about 7:20 (the deadline of late: 7 am). Xu Hua can prove I do not lie.” After an extended pause, my teacher said, “I will ask Xu Hua to prove you are blameless. If we wake up the wrong passenger to you, I am so sorry. I will ask monitor to apologize for you.”
In this thing, I found that I statements allowed me to more effectively than do You statements. The reason is that I statement direct describe how and why I feel as I do. Others can easier understand my opinion unambiguously and honestly through my I statements. That was very important in communication. In contrast, You statement, which usually includes the blame, is hard to understand the thinking and also easy to make barriers to cause miscommunication
JOURNAL 4
Monica, who comes from Australia, and I, who am from China, discussed the intercultural communication in the lecture last week. We explored the cultural similarities and differences between two countries.
On the one hand, we discussed the same culture between Australia and China. First of all, both China and Australia’s culture is masculine. Men have the magisterial status in the society. Secondly, occupying a large landmass is another similarity between two countries. China has 9,596,960 square kilometer and Australia has 7,686,850 square kilometer. Thirdly, Australians and Chinese share a similar standard of living, with the pursuits, tastes and time that go with it. Fourthly, both China and Australia are multiracial country. In China, there are 56 nations living together. Similarly, immigrants who come from different country settle in Australia and mix in friendly.
On the other hand, although China and Australia have a lot of similarities in the cultural identity, they also have plenty of different aspects.
Firstly, China emphasizes collectivism but Australia insists individualism. Collectivism means government control of all key cultural and economic institutions. Under collectivism, the well being of the collective, the group, is considered more important than the individual who must sacrifice his self-interest to that of the group. China is communistic country, and Communist Party control all key cultural and economic institutions, as well as a lot of small party cooperate with Communist Party. In contrast, individualism holds that abstract groups or transcendent entities can act, benefit or suffer, necessitating an abstract structure (such as the state) to support these groups or entities. Australia’s system of government is based on the liberal democratic tradition, which includes religious tolerance and freedom of speech and association. Its institutions and practices reflect British and North American models but are uniquely Australian.
Secondly, unlike China which has high power distance, Australia has low power distance. For example, in China, the education system emphasize on ‘learning by rote’. Teachers have high authority, which means that people believe that all the knowledge of teachers’ teaching is right and students only can obey orders. In addition, there is little discussion in the class and Asian students only passively wait to be taught and dislike asking. However, the Australian concept of ‘show and tell’ means Australian students not only listen to teachers with eye-contact, but also take the initiative to join discussion and ask.
Thirdly, unlike China, Australian likes large personal space. They think everyone has privacy and we should keep distance to safeguard personal privacy. However, in China, standing too far, means they are not friendly. Small personal space stands for friendly, folksy, trustful and passional relationship.
Fourthly, China and Australia are different in number of children in one family. In China, government advocate ‘planned parenthood’ which means one family only has one child. In contrast, Australian government advocates that one family has more than one child. Government even give the child who born after 1st July, 2004, $3,000.
Finally, the population of two countries is different. China has 1.3 billion but there are 12million people in Australia.
In conclusion, China and Australia are different in political system, power distance, personal space, the number of children in one family and population. Except these differences, they are similar in masculine, a large landmass, standard of living and multiracial country.
JOURNAL 5
When we communicate effectively with others, the non verbal messages should interact with verbal message. Firstly, we should have a positive emotion. The people who talk to others with a smile can make others wish to go on communicating. If we have a good emotion, we should have an enthusiasm to talk to others and like express our feeling. Secondly, eye communication is indispensability, when we communicate effectively with others. Eye as a window can directly express people’s feeling. Though the people’s eye, we can see the emotion, such as, happy, sad and shy. Also, eye-connect stand for devoir.
I think anger is difficult to communicate to others. The anger happen when we are frustrated, thwarted or attacked. When you are angry, you cannot express your feeling and take in the information from other people. If we continue to communicate, it will create dislike, frustration, and even conflict or revenge.
I cannot effectively decode all the non-verbal language of others who comes from other country, because shyness and different background are two main difficulties in our communication. When I am shy, I am afraid to look at the eyes who talk with me. So I lose eye communication and other type of non verbal communication. In addition, if I communicate with others who come from different countries, we do not know the background between two countries. Different gestures in different stand for different meaning.
In my opinion, interpreting is more difficult than expressing, because interpreting should explain the meaning. However, expressing just need communicate with others about your feeling. I design some strategies to make interpreting easier. Firstly, we can use non verbal language to help interpreting. When we interpret with others, we can use gestures and posture instead of the word which is difficult to interpret. Secondly, eye communication is very important. When we interpret, eye-contact transmits a lot of information to communicator.
When I communicate with others, I should use non verbal messages interacting with verbal message. The non verbal communication can make our communication more effectively and easier. Non verbal communication include gestures, posture, facial communication, space communication, touch communication and paralanguage. The smile and eye communication can make others would like to communicate with you.
JOURNAL 6
I set two goals at the beginning of this semester and now I reach these two goals. First of all, I lose my weight from 55 kilogram to 50 kilogram. Secondly, I find a part-time job in a Chinese restaurant in Box Hill.
For my first goal, although I lose my weight from 55 kilogram to 50 kilogram, I suffer a lot of difficulties. First of all, I could not do every thing following the time table. Sometimes I could not get up at 7:30, because the study of this semester is too busy. I read the book and did the assignment late at night. I have not volition to get up very early on the next day morning. Therefore, the running at morning was delayed or cancelled when I could not get up at 7:30. Similarly, because of studying time and different time management with my housemate, I could not jog with my housemate third times a week following my plan. But I walked to Box Hill shopping center to buy the vegetables, when I am free and need to go shopping, which instead of dogmatic time table. Secondly, I also ate KFC and Pizza, when I have no time to cook. The study time and work time are too busy, but I had three regular meals everyday. In these three months, I gave up eating my favorite chocolate and ice-cream instate of vegetables and fruits. When I was hungry before go to bed at night, I choose drinking water to forget hungry.
I modify some timetable to achieve the first goal. Initially, I cancel the dogmatic timetable. I will do everything following the plan, such as the running, jogging and yoga. However, I will do everything according to the practical time. If I have more time at this week, I will do more sports, and vice versa. Secondly, I cannot give up my favorite chocolate and ice cream in my whole life. So I decide reduce the quantity of the chocolate and ice cream.
For my second goal, I found a part-time job in a Chinese restaurant of Box Hill. I walked along the street of Box Hill, and discovered a Chinese restaurant in which engage three waitresses. I walk into the restaurant and give the boss application. A few days later, I got a call said I can work in this Chinese restaurant and they can give me 7 dollar per hour for wage. Then I start to do my first job.
At the beginning, the boss required me to work about four times a week, which means I have no time to rest. After a week, I found that I was so tired and was not competent for this job, because I should write a journal and do an online test in my Human Relation, and write a case study in my Advanced Management Accounting course every week. So I solicited my boss that I only can work at Friday and Saturday. My boss loathly consent my request. From the fourth week of this semester, my study became busier and busier. The assignment and test appear one after another. I must review and read the book so that I have no time to work. As a result, I abdicate that job.
I decide to go on this work in my winter holiday. At that time, I will not be afraid the time management. I am free at the whole holiday and spend a lot of time to work. For example, I can work four times a week and have a rest and travel at the other days. If I have a chance, I also want to find the job which can acquire more wages per hour. Therefore, I will go on find the job online and on the newspaper at the rest time.
In conclusion, my goals are SMART goals, which is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time planned.
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